from wikipedia:
In modern-day society, ego has many meanings. It could mean one’s self-esteem; an inflated sense of self-worth; or in philosophical terms, one’s self. However, according to Freud, the ego is the part of the mind which contains the consciousness. Originally, Freud had associated the word ego to meaning a sense of self; however, he later revised it to mean a set of psychic functions such as judgment, tolerance, reality-testing, control, planning, defense, synthesis of information, intellectual functioning, and memory.
i have this friend, who in the most recent times, has developed an inflated ego. what i mean by this, is not only do they have a very high opinion of themselves and their skills, but they also knock others at the same time. and compare themselves to others constantly. and get defensive when you suggest that they might have completed a task just less than awesome. and they search out the compliments!
i think they think that they are a flowerpot just because they have a hole in their bum.
i dont mind self confidence. in fact, i think self confidence is very sexy but an inflated ego can be our greatest asset or our greatest liability. especially when the ego is greater than the intelligence or the common sense of that particular person. its one of the personality traits that i know that i can exhibit from time to time and its the one that i try and keep in check the most.
i find that people shy away from an egomaniac. and the old saying ‘pride comes before a fall’ isnt just a saying – it comes true quite often. you want your friends to be there when you do fall, not just to help pick you up and dust you off, but to provide some advice on how to make sure that it doesnt happen again, or ways to avoid it. if you are the kind of person who gets defensive, do you think your friends will be there to assist?
i hope my friend chills a little. i hope they start to see a little error in the ways that they are behaving. parts of their personality that i was drawn to, now just irritate the fuck out of me. so much so, that i cant keep some distain in check and i dont like that about myself so its just easier not to see or talk to them.
yes, they are awesome but just not that awesome that i can deal with this behaviour. the other thing i dont want to see, is them realise their failures through some event, some accident, that scares them or causes them harm.
i just have enough flowerpots in my garden thank you.
